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A sense of detachment
Thursday, September 3, 2009, Thursday, September 03, 2009
In life, it is important to learn how to detach yourself away from something.
Dont cling to things because everything is impermanent.
Detachment doesnt mean you dont let the experience penetrate you.In the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully and thats' how you are able to leave it.
Eg:
Take any emotion-love for women/men,or grief for a love one, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions-if you dont allow yourself to go all the way through them-you can never get to being detached,you're too busy being afraid.You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that love entails
But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is
And only can you say, 'all right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognise that emotion. Now i need to detach from that emotion for a moment.'
So turn on the faucet. Wash yourself with the emotion. It wont hurt you. It will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt,then you can say to yourself,'all right, its just fear, i dont have to let it control me. I see it for what it is'.
Same for loneliness: you let go,let the tears flow, feel it completely- but eventually be able to say,' okay, that was my moment of loneliness. Im not afraid of feeling lonely, but now im going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and im going to experience them as well'.